Dating apps as spurnful as life

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Jared Amdahl / The Advocate

By Jared Amdahl, Opinion Editor

While there are differences between online-dating apps and more traditional methods of finding love, they are subtle.

Internet dating has expanded to the point that it is no longer necessary to do “normal” overrated activities like go outside or actually meet people in person.

With dating apps like Tinder, Skout, OK Cupid and Plenty of Fish it is possible for you to find that “special someone” with a simple swipe of a finger.

But regardless if it is through a phone, computer or done in person, the truth remains the same: Love is not something you should look for, it is something that finds you.

How original, I know, but please bear with me.

Dating sites bring the possible matches to you, rather than you going out in search of romance. They are a means to an end.

All without leaving the comfort of your couch, or even without putting on pants sometimes, you can surf the Web to find the love of your life.

In my personal experience I have found that it is rather difficult to choose the person you love, online or offline.

Ever look at someone and know immediately if you would want to date that person or not, just to be surprised in the end by how completely wrong you were?

Don’t worry, we all have.

This will happen everyday in both real interactions and of course digital ones, such as the interactions that take place on Tinder, for example.

Trial and error still exists in the future. Finding someone that you click with in that special way will take time through any medium of dating.

There is one factor that these apps have not been able to rule out — an extreme chance of failure.

Ever walk up to that one cute girl or guy you have been noticing in the bar all night? You stumble through a giant crowd of possible alcoholics, party animals and try to say the right thing to initiate conversation, only to be immediately turned down with the usual look of disgust or disapproval?

Don’t worry, we all have.

The same thing is possible on a dating site. You look through online profiles that provide you with pictures and background information on your would-be love interest and you send him or her a message.

Sometimes your call will not be answered though.

And even then, other times the person who answers your call, is not the person you expected.

The truth is dating apps have grown in popularity over the last five years.

The Pew Research Center found in a study that one in 10 Americans between the ages of 18 and 35 have either used or are currently using an online dating application.

Look around; count 10 people — one of them might just be on Tinder.

Apps make it easier for certain people to find that special someone without the chance of facing an immense amount of embarrassment.

Being rejected through a social medium partially numbs the negative effects that can come along with being turned down.

You may have to go through what will seem like countless no’s and maybe’s while you look for that someone on your quest.

But do not fret, the one and only is out there looking for you, too — whether either of you know it or not.